Somehow, time has passed (as it always seems to these days), and you are older, and (yes, cliche) wiser! It simply appears that nothing – nay – not much, has changed. Everything has changed. Riding the wave of time you are ever-present. The change in action – so how could you really see how far you have come?

I think it is safe to say that we are all our own harshest critic. In our head slithers the voice of a parent, grandparent, boss, whoever had influence over you really, (or an impact) — someone who judges and reprimands, says “it’s not enough” or “wrong again” or simply “bad!”. Now this voice, these snide remarks wait by your ear to tell you, to reinforce really, that you are not enough. It’s easy to understand why we believe these thoughts, and how we could have believed the people in our lives putting us down. Once aware of this pattern, you are ready to hear secret, an intrinsic* truth about life: your mere existence earns you the right to “be enough”.

intrinsic: belonging naturally; essential

Contrary to past generational dogma, you do not need to *do* anything to be deserving of love. Of a good life. Now, don’t get me wrong – you must be a good person. By good, I mean you do not harm others. You do not touch people without their consent (this is a vile thing). You do no harm. You don’t murder. You do not lie, cheat, or steal. You do not need a bible to understand morality. A good rule of thumb is “if you don’t want it done to you, do not do it to others”. I would like to make it even more simple for you than that: your rights to autonomy (meaning you doing whatever you want) ends where another person’s begins. Everyone has a right to exist and do as they please – so long as they do not affect others. In summary being good is much easier than you think.

Which is maybe why it is so difficult for me to understand when people are bad. My therapist said often it’s not even intentional – they (the “bad” people) simply lack the knowledge or capacity to be good. Maybe. I’m sure these people are much more frustrated with themselves and their lives and that is the reason they are mean to people. Maybe I should stop trying to understand.

When a snake bites you, don’t run down the snake and ask why he bit you or worst try to convince the snake you didn’t deserve the bite, just focus on the antidote quick and fast.

I saw this quote from above on the internet a while ago and I think it’s a good philosophy to adapt. There is much energy wasted thinking about those who hurt us. I propose you join me in letting go of the people who have hurt us. Instead of taking this stuff home with us and carrying it around let’s let it go. Let’s forget those who hurt us.

Let’s instead focus this attention on being grateful for those that love and support us. Let’s be grateful for the people who are happy to see us. For our pets and loved ones.

Thanks,

See you soon!