Finding yourself is never easy. If you’ve already found who you are I applaud you! Do you feel safe and at home in your skin? How did you get where you are today? Do you have any tips for me?

I love a lot of different things, and trying to figure out which of those things make me who I am and expressing my true self, what I want to be and do, has not been easy.

I yank my own chain from wanting to be one thing, realizing it stresses me out (because it’s not the real me), and switching to something else. Society puts this pressure on everyone to look a certain way, talk a certain way, act a certain way – in order to be conventionally pretty, loved, and accepted. Why do I crave and chase this approval from others? Don’t get me wrong – your opinion matters – but why should it stop me from doing something I like, or force me to be someone I’m not?

I am on an up-hill battle to discovering myself and finding true happiness. I want to find peace. I want to be able to be self-sufficient. I want to do something I enjoy and love purely for the fact that I  like it. I want to get to a point where I am comfortable in my skin and my reflection in the mirror is familiar. That it’s me. 

The way I am starting to get there is being more mindful about what makes me feel good and what makes me feel bad. Glam makeup? Beautiful! But it isn’t me. Flowy and vintagey? Love. Discovering myself is a process. I look back at when I was younger and how easily I made my choices – not caring what reaction it would get out of others. If you have difficulty trying to do things more freely look towards your childhood self. There is truth in the curiosity of a child’s mind.

How do you stay true to yourself? What makes you, you? Let me know in the comments!

xo, Lilu